By the time she was 30 years old, “Roberta” was the mother of a beautiful baby boy she was crazy about—but about her husband “Harry,” the baby’s father, not so much; Roberta had more than enough of Harry. They fought all the time, and Harry was about done with Roberta, too. Their fights started getting physical; once, Harry threw a wooden salad bowl at Roberta, striking her in the chest, but this was an isolated case. Neither of their families provided help of any kind.
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Defining Moments For Therapists
If therapy is a relational process, it takes a person on the therapist’s end. The goal of the project is to capture the therapist’s evolving sense of self as it is shaped by our experiences as active participants in a creative interaction.
The essays in this book are first-person accounts, by eleven therapists, of some “Aha!” moments when they got to understand themselves better, and to understand better why they do what they do.
Publication date: April 18, 2013
The book will be available for sale: - as a regular book, on Amazon,… Continue reading →
The behavioral and emotional effects can either point outward, when children become violent to others, or inward, when children become violent to themselves. Peer relationships and the ability to understand others’ feelings also are compromised. Cognitive functioning is not effected, but the individual is more likely to resort to aggressive means than to seek compromise, since aggression has been a model. After the children have grown up, they are more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, and feelings of worthlessness. Needless to say, the ability to trust others is a problem, too.
Going to China!
October 10th, 2011 By Lynn Somerstein, PhD, RYT, Object Relations Topic Expert Contributor
On October 20th, I’ll be landing in China (Beijing, to be precise), accompanied by a group of psychoanalysts and therapists who have been teaching and supervising Chinese student analysts in training, using Skype and other distance learning methods. I am psyched. I will see, in person, students with whom I’ve developed warm relationships, and it is amazing how close people can feel even though they are far away from each other. We’ll be seeing each other for the first time. Or will… Continue reading →
I find it lots harder to forgive myself than to forgive others, but I’m not so good at that either. Breathe into it, into that stiff angry place, as though it were a really tight muscle that needed to relax. Keep breathing. . .keep trying. Forgiveness just makes life happier and more open all around. It takes a lot of practice, though.
1. Find a place. 2. Find a time. 3. Decide how long to meditate- 5 minutes is enough for beginners. 4. How often? Daily? Every other day? Remember, frequent shorter sessions work better than occasional long ones. 5. If you don’t live by yourself, set this up with the people you live with so they don’t disturb you but don’t feel neglected either. 6. Shut off the phone. 7. Forgive yourself and others. 8. Make a committment.
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